It's late and the second session of General Conference isn't quite done. I doubt I'm going to get to the rest of the talks, because I'm still stuck on Russell M. Nelson's talk about marriage and how it's like shopping.
I guess we all knew this talk was coming, in light of Proposition 8. But what surprised me was that I felt more attacked as someone being married to a non-member than I think even homosexuals would have felt after hearing this. (But they can answer for themselves.)
This is one of those talks that uses such loaded language, as to make one feel doomed and filled with guilt, for choosing to marry outside of the temple. I realize that temple marriage is important and needs to be talked about. But isn't there a nicer way to say it? This talk reminds me of a George W. Bush attempt at international diplomacy.
There were two parts of the talk that stung a little.
The first one was when he talked about reading in the newspaper an "obituary of an expectation that a recent death has reunited that person with a deceased spouse, when in fact, they did not choose the eternal option... Heavenly Father had offered them a supernal gift, but they refused it and in rejecting the gift, they rejected the giver of the gift."
Is it always as black and white has he has expressed it here? Did I really "refuse" the gift of eternal marriage and have I "rejected" Heavenly Father? Apparently so. And as for dead spouses being "reunited," I'd like to believe that they will be together with their loved ones, even if they aren't "married," but I suppose I'm wrong about that as well.
The second one was in regards to cheapness. I guess this isn't the first time I've been accused of being a penny-pincher. :) He said:
"Some marital options are cheap, some are costly, and some are cunningly crafted by the adversary. Beware of his options, they always breed misery. The best choice is a Celestial marriage. Thankfully, if a lesser choice has previously been made, a choice can now be made to upgrade it to the best choice."
My personal analysis of this quote? The first part is about me, the middle part is about gays, and the last part about upgrading from something "lesser" is something that very few of us will attain and don't need to have leaders keep rubbing it in.
All I can say is, thank goodness my husband wasn't watching General Conference with me. The last thing I would want him to think is that I got him off the clearance rack.
On a brighter side, after Nelson's talk, Boyd K. Packer may have just moved up a notch in my book. :)
And just for the record, I've never told anyone that their obituary was wrong.